Recently, due to duties at the office, I was given the task to listen to about 15 students who are put under my care. They are students who are not qualified, academically, to move on to the Degree programs.
Initially, I was quite nervous as to the ways I should be approaching these students. In my heart, I kept thinking I should talk to them, not as a lecturer. But as a person they can open their hearts and pour out what is inside that kept bothering/distract them, up to the level to disturb their studies. Thanks to tips from Vee, she gave me very useful/helpful insights about how these sessions would be. It turned out interesting.
I learn a lot from them (students in my list). As I talk to them and when they open up to me, I felt accepted. I felt good. I learn how human beings choose to communicate on certain sensitive issues. Why, at times, we just don't feel like talking. The reasons behind mysteries of that set of confused eyes and faces.
Finally, I learned more about communication. As a matter a fact, in this case, interpersonal communication. I experienced the situation when a "common ground" is hard to achieve/find. Sometimes it is so easy. A lot of times, it can be so difficult that it makes you speechless and helpless. You feel like shouting "talk to me!!!!". But you know it just don't work out this way. The wall built between two human beings would just get few meters thicker in the very few seconds those words were shouted.
Human communication, in fact, is a very challenging topic to discover, where theories couldn't explain most of those situations.
Oh, one inspiring word I got from a very wise man and passed on to my students during one of the sessions and emails.
Initially, I was quite nervous as to the ways I should be approaching these students. In my heart, I kept thinking I should talk to them, not as a lecturer. But as a person they can open their hearts and pour out what is inside that kept bothering/distract them, up to the level to disturb their studies. Thanks to tips from Vee, she gave me very useful/helpful insights about how these sessions would be. It turned out interesting.
I learn a lot from them (students in my list). As I talk to them and when they open up to me, I felt accepted. I felt good. I learn how human beings choose to communicate on certain sensitive issues. Why, at times, we just don't feel like talking. The reasons behind mysteries of that set of confused eyes and faces.
Finally, I learned more about communication. As a matter a fact, in this case, interpersonal communication. I experienced the situation when a "common ground" is hard to achieve/find. Sometimes it is so easy. A lot of times, it can be so difficult that it makes you speechless and helpless. You feel like shouting "talk to me!!!!". But you know it just don't work out this way. The wall built between two human beings would just get few meters thicker in the very few seconds those words were shouted.
Human communication, in fact, is a very challenging topic to discover, where theories couldn't explain most of those situations.
Oh, one inspiring word I got from a very wise man and passed on to my students during one of the sessions and emails.
"We have the options to choose our friends, but never our family members. So love and take them as who they are".
My sessions with the students turn out very interesting. Some are just confused and do not know what to do. They said I helped them a little. Maybe just by listening to them. Whatever it is, I am just very glad and happy I did.
Maybe life is just about this. When you make people happy, and you feel happier in return, there's nothing more in life that you can really ask for. Literally.
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