Forgiving a Cheater?

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This post is so inspired by Xiaxue.com. If you know Xiaxue, she is famous for her drastic point of views, which I find funny, entertaining yet enlightening, and infamous plastic surgeries.


Her latest post was about cheaters and how NOT to cheat. Well, I had cheaters and I totally love her post so much! Xiaxue, if you happen to read this humble blog of mine, who has maybe only 1% of blog traffic compared to yours, thank you for shouting to all cheaters/bastards out there for the rest of us.


Firstly, let's look into what defines a cheater.


Cheater = Is someone who acts dishonestly.



Yes, that simple.



But it seems like to some people, it is NOT simple at all.


Like we always see on the movies when the cheater [I am not specifying MALE or FEMALE. Can be either!] comes saying ...


"Oh it is just a misunderstanding ... not I didn't do it"


or


"Sorry, please forgive me. I didn't mean to do it! Swear to God!"
well, you swear to your own God lah


or


"Well who ask you to always be so annoying? That's why I cheated. And I was drunk!"
Oh, so if I want to cheat, I will just go make myself drunk and I am QUALIFIED to cheat?


Well, first and foremost, I would like to highlight that I am not writing this based on certain grounds and there has nothing to do with any of my family members including Mr. D.


I agree with Xiaxue. I always believe that if you love someone deep enough, you would not do anything to hurt him/her or anything that would risk loosing him/her.


Thus, if you did it, it as though means you don't love him/her much enough. It means you love yourself more.


I totally agree with Xiaxue when she said that it is very brave to put all your heart into one person, but it need extra more courage to cheat on the person you love.

When Carrie Bradshaw cheated on Mr. Big in Abu Dhabi by kissing her ex-boyfriend Aiden, I was a little pissed! How could she do that to Mr. Big?



Yes, he can be a little too settled.

Yes, he loves to sit in his couch.

Yes, he doesn't like too much parties on weekdays.



Well, it all boils down to the choice Carrie has made. Carrie chose to marry Mr. Big. She chose to be with him. Carrie chose Mr. Big. It was her choice and no one forced her. Right? So maybe she made the wrong choice?

If it is yes, then wedding vows mean nothing?


I have this believe that when you read your wedding vow (I imagine it would be like that), you'll look into the eyes of your husband/wife and you'll feel that "this is it". This is The One. Because if you don't believe that a person is destined to be with one another, then DON'T GET MARRIED.


I believe that marriage is for life. A wedding is to celebrate the union of 2 special individuals. It is not done just to put up a show or have the families fuss around something for a year. It is something to cherish for the rest of your life. So, think properly before getting into one.


When Xiaxue ask all cheaters who intend to cheat but don't feel like cheat to WALK AWAY so it won't happen, I wanted to cheer for her making that statement!

Yes! Don't invite trouble or get into too much trouble. Set the line. AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER PERSON KNOWS YOUR LINE/ZONE/LIMITS.

You know, humans are brilliant creatures who can never resist lust. You can say you don't, but never say never.

So, just don't get involved. You should be smart enough to just walk away or ignore certain issues that might invite trouble.

Just go home, or think of your partners waiting in vain at home. Think of the wedding proposal you have planned. Memorise your wedding vows and repeat that in your head.

Because at the end of the day, you will only regret hurting that person you love/married. You would never want to do that.

Again, if you still did it despite imagining/remember all these, you DON'T love her, YOU ONLY LOVE YOURSELF.

I love what Mike (Xie Xue's bf) said "Here's the litmus test - if it will upset the other party when they find out, I think it's considered cheating. So if you have to hide it, you shouldn't do it."

I can't agree more.

A relationship involves commitment from both parties. If you're not ready to commit, then don't. There's no trials in relationships.


p/s: Someone just bang my car. No biggie, Darling was with me. Thank God both of us are fine. I was the one driving. And luckily I don't have to do anything major to my car. . . what a day.


XOXO,
theRascal